Sharing my learnings from the book, The Kindness Method by Shapiro Izadi.
The Kindness Method by Shapiro Izadi
The Kindness Method is the key to breaking unwanted habits—for good! Combining her own therapeutic style, personal experiences, and techniques learned from working in the field of substance abuse, Shahroo Izadi shares simple steps that strengthen your willpower like a muscle, allowing you to sustain your motivation and make lasting change in your life.
Shahroo’s completely non-judgmental process for mapping and channeling your habits is based on the principle of treating yourself with the compassion and understanding that it is often only reserved for other people. From procrastination to issues of body image, this method works by creating a custom plan—mapped by you, for you, and driven by self-motivation.
- Self compassion is integral to lasting change
- lasting change requires a judgment free process
- when seeking for change, it is crucial that you are competely honest to yourself
- if you want to change something about yourself, you have to put systems in place to hold yourself accountable
- cultivate self-compassion by appreciating what you’ve already accomplished
- as you process through the kindness method, you’ll shift your mindset by creating an ever-expanding reminder of what you’re capable of
- dedicate time in understanding what has and hasn’t worked for you in the past
- acknowledging your shortcomings will help you better prepare to reach your goals next time
- identify the habits you want to change, the negative impact of them and how they emerged. Consider the reasons why you are stuck in your ways
- by being honest about your behavior, you can learn to forgive yourself for not progressing and be kinder to yourself while moving ahead
- tracking your triggers can help you overcome them
- by identifying your stressors, you can attempt to learn coping strategies that will improve your daily life and ensure that stress doesnt affect the changes you aim for the long term
- create a realistic plan with incremental goals
- by making sure your plan is realistic, you’ll become more likely to achieve the expectations you set for yourself at each step of the process. You’ll feel proud of what you’ve achieved and be motivated to keep going. Then, you’ll determine the next incremental changes that will help you move toward the life you’d like the lead.