Sharing my learnings from the book, Flawsome by Georgia Murch
Flawsome by Georgia Murch
We are so damn tough on ourselves. The feedback we give ourselves dictates how we see ourselves and the world around us. Flawsome helps understand what it takes to not just understand and accept who we are, but to celebrate it. In all of your colours.
You will be able to identify and understand what the people and circumstances that trigger you off at work and home. Wrestling what is really true and the beliefs systems you have to help or hinder you. Then moving to transformation not through a big exhausting evolution process but one moment at a time. If you want to live a flawsome life where you learn to appreciate the whole of you, then this is for you.
- many of us look for ways to hide our flaws but the key to really growing into ourselves is embracing these flaws, understanding where they stem from and learning from them
- your flaws aren’t things to be fixed, they’re part of who you are. Without them, you lose authenticity & the ability to connect with others
- you need to own your flaws and see them as opportunities for continued growth
- your unique flaws draw people to you
- pratfall effect is a human tendency to feel warmly toward people who embarrass themselves.
- by embracing your flaws, you become flawsome. This means viewing your thoughts, actions and failures from a place of understanding, not judgment
- you can’t solve an internal problem with an external solution. You need to get to a place of awareness
- recognizing your triggers gives you a chance to control the way you respond to them
- content triggers are information or ideas that you find unhelpful, unfair or you don’t agree with
- Relationship triggers are about who’s sharing the information & any negative feelings you might have about them
- Delivery trigger is when the way information is shared that prompts you to shut down & stop listening
- identity triggers are ideas about you they totally clash with your sense of self
- being open to different perspectives helps us learn
- different reasons why we struggle to take in different perspectives:
- Cognitive distortions – were the only ones who know what’s right, while other encourage jumping to conclusions
- we attach to information is tinted with our own assumptions
- to ensure you’re always able to see & learn from different perspectives, be completely present when you receive information and withhold judgement until you’ve had the time to understand it
- transformation is an ongoing journey that requires always choosing growth
- think of forgiveness as a growth pill, one we can offer to other people, or take ourselves as we strive to become flawsome