October 26, 2016 is a life changing date for me. Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that I would be entering a marriage union. But God has plans for me. While it may be unusual for a 39 year old to find love, here I am embracing God’s plan wholeheartedly.
Technically, as of yesterday, Ken and I are legally married. In our hearts, we will continue to act as an engaged couple because it is truly important for us to have the Lord’s blessing in our union. So we will continue to live separately until our church wedding (which is already very soon!).
It was my in-laws wishes that we go through the civil wedding. I guess it’s okay as we can prevent processing legal stuff on December while everyone is already on holiday mode. Plus, there is no more excuse for either of us to runaway during the church ceremony! 😅
A civil wedding is usually performed by a judge of the RTC court (we had a beautiful judge at that!) or the mayor of the city. We were assigned a judge since the mayor was not available during our scheduled date.
Here is what Ken did to secure a schedule at the Mandaluyong City Hall:
- Went to Mandaluyong City Hall of Justice at the Ground Floor.
- Submitted Cenomar & our Marriage License as requirements for the civil wedding.
- Paid ₱314.00 for the Lawyer’s fee
- Waited for the call to get the schedule of the civil wedding.
On the day of the civil wedding itself, we are required to have 2 people within legal age to act as our witnesses. Since Ken and I are of legal age, we didn’t need a parent or guardian to join us. However, this is such an important date, Ken’s dad and my mom attended together with our best friends Den and Peachy who acted as witnesses of our civil union 😍
The process is pretty simple:
- we arrived at Mandaluyong City Hall of Justice 30 minutes earlier than the ceremony proper.
- we were asked to go to the judge’s office for a short interview. We were asked if we brought our vows with us. I told the judge that we didn’t prepare one as we are going to get married with the Lord’s blessing very soon. We told the judge truthfully that we went through the civil marriage route for legal purposes but it is critical for us to have the Lord be the center of our relationship.
- we then went ahead to the room where the civil wedding will be held.
- the judge entered and started the ceremony.
- after the vows and the document signing, we took a couple of pictures so that we have photographed memories to keep.
- after 2-3 weeks, we can pick up our marriage contract at the Mandaluyong City Hall.
Until now, it feels surreal but I’m excited for my new life ahead. That’s why I launched HeaRty.PH as a symbol of new life. From now on, I will be blogging about my personal experiences in this site. rochellesychua.com will continue to be there for a year or two but I’ll probably transfer entries that are critical in my life here.
Cheers for more milestones and happy moments! 😃